3 Ways To Heal & Get Over A Heartbreaking Break Up
How To Get Over Heartbreak & 3 Ways To Heal Over A Break Up
Even though this blog post is about How To Get Over Heartbreak…let us talk about the mind for a moment. We know that the mind can be conditioned & brainwashed, and our society has indirectly made us forget our self worth as well as self love.
You see, heartbreak and heartache CAN be a natural emotion, but I truly feel that this low emotion is intensely amplified through the subliminal messages that are constantly being poured into our minds from society, from our environment, from our immediate surroundings and how we may have been raised by our families & communities.
Example: Most Pop music (not just the genre), but I mean music that is just popular in general that’s about love is expressed in a way that shows & suggest that we are not worthy.
DO NOT LET THESE IDEAS BE YOUR AFFIRMATIONS!!!!
DO NOT LET THESE IDEAS BE YOUR MANTRAS!!!
Music is ALL around us, so when I turn on the radio, listen to a YouTube or Spotify playlist, or even when I’m out and about and music is being played at a store, and when it comes to the music that’s in movies and TV shows, I always come across lyrics like this, “Oh baby, don’t leave me”, “Baby come back, take me back”, “If you take your love away from me, I’ll go crazy.” Etc, etc…First of all, let me say that this is a VERY low, needy, desperate, non powerful energy.
As I always express,
AS A MAN THINKS SO IS HE. AS A WOMAN THINKS, SO IS SHE.
So, when it comes to how to get over heartbreak, creating our life experiences, or law of attraction…we attract what we think about the most. Energy flows where attention goes. So, if our mind is constantly attuned to heartbreak (whether directly or indirectly, consciously or subconsciously)…Well, that’s exactly what we’re going to get!
My suggestion to you is to KING UP & QUEEN UP in your energy! KNOW your worth…KNOW THYSELF!
It’s not just Music, it’s all other forms of media, society’s ideas that we have been taught, as well as your closests friends and family’s ideas that is EXTREMELY powerful in planting seeds in our subconscious mind, so we unconsciously mirror these non powerful behaviors. We must remain conscious and aware of what seeds we are being fed to us, and consciously plant EMPOWERING seeds into our minds about love/self love, & self worth to have much more favorable love experiences.
LISTEN CAREFULLY – I’m not saying to give up on your significant other or to give up on love, I’m just saying that we need a strong foundation in self love & self worth before we seek to build with another person outside of ourselves, and learn how to get over heartbreak.
If You Seek Love Without (outside of yourself), Then It’s True Love That You’ll Be Without (in the absence of).
If You Seek Love Without (outside of yourself), Then It’s True Love That You’ll Be Without (in the absence of).
When it comes to how to get over heartbreak, it’s okay to feel sad, upset, frustrated, and even angry, but what I see is too many people giving away their power through the whole ordeal, and even externalizing their power, love, and worth.
THIS IS A HUGE NO-NO!
So, in this blog post, I will be showing you what foundation you MUST have within in order to heal and how to get over heartbreak, to WIN AT LOVE AND NEVER PLAY VICTIM AGAIN!!!
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Now, let’s get down to business…Step #1 in How to heal and get over heartbreak…
#1 Be Conscious Of Where Your Focus Is
(What Are You Attuned To?)
It’s November 2008, and I’m traveling with my girlfriend at the time to Los Angeles, CA. Driving down the Hollywood freeway on a perfectly sunny day, a certain song came on the radio. It instantly captivated me. I instantly liked this song, because it spoke to my soul for whatever reason. It resonated deeply within me, and I had no idea why until years later. This song just so happens to be a song called Heartless by Kanye West. He just releases one of his albums called 808’s and Heartbreak. Hmm, go figure, I think you know which direction this story is going to go in…
Fast forward a few weeks later and guess what? You guessed right if you said, heartbreak occurred lol. Even though it was a perfectly logical, legitimate reason why we had to break up, she was the one that originally initiated it, and yes it left me heartbroken and feeling like a victim.
This is an important, significant little story. At the time I was not aware of how attuned & focused my subconscious mind was to heartbreak. Mind you, this WAS NOT the first time nor last time where a woman has “left me” heartbroken. Especially for reasons that did not seem fair. In ALL these situations, I never “did” anything to cause a breakup. It almost seemed as if God was punishing me. Or maybe teaching me extremely hard lessons OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. The same scenario, but with different females.
So, when I say I was not aware of how much I was attuned to heartbreak this is what I mean. Unconsciously, I was always favored music that was set in a minor key. I have always been into music, but what this means essentially is that I was subconsciously drawn to music that sounded dark, gloomy, slow, sad. Music that strikes emotion and reminds me of my painful experiences in previous relationships.
This is a prime example of understanding how POWERFUL our minds are. Since my mind was so intensely attuned to these low, non empowering vibrational themes in music, my subconscious mind made sure my external reality would match where my mind was at.
IF YOU FOCUS ON HEARTBREAK…THAT’S WHAT YOU GONNA GET!
Our subconscious mind is the main driver! Perfect example…when we first learn how to drive a car, we have to be so conscious in what we are doing to not make a mistake and crash. Our first day of driving, all of our focus had to go into using our hands to signal correctly, checking all mirrors because we merge and change lanes, be aware of our footing to correctly make sure we don’t mistake the gas pedal for the brake pedal. So many things we have to be consciously aware of to make sure it all goes smooth.
Let 3 years pass, and now we can text while driving, hold deep conversations while driving, and even day dream. Have you ever been so deep in thought while driving, you finally come back to your senses, and say to yourself…”WOW, how did I get here so fast?” WHO WAS DRIVING, if you wasn’t 100% present on the road at all times. That was the wisdom and experience of your subconscious mind.
Our subconscious minds will do whatever it has to do, in order to fit the “Story” you have in your mind. If what you are attuned to, tells you that you are attuned to heartbreak, then your subconscious mind will influence you to do things that will eventually trigger responses to invoke a heartbreaking experience.
Another brief example is that I had a good friend who loved to watch movies where there was never a happy ending. These were love movies in particular, but the central theme in these movies were always heartbreak, and the main characters that we were naturally routing for, always fell short of their deserved glory of being together and living happily ever after.
Since she was constantly filling her head with images of failed love, what do you think her external experiences reflected???
IF YOU FOCUS ON HEARTBREAK…THAT’S WHAT YOU GONNA GET!
But i’m not here to sell negative ideas, or to use scare tactics…Here’s the flip side of it all
IF YOU FOCUS ON POSITIVE EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE…Then that’s what you will get!
So, I’m not telling you to never listen to a song that has lyrics of heartbreak, or to never watch a movie where the lovers break up…what I’m saying is to be AWARE of how you are emotionally attached to it. It’s the emotional attachment that is helping out subconscious mind resonate with it. When we listen and watch these things, and it reminds us of our painful experiences in the past, then that is what our subconscious minds reacts to. It takes practice, but we can watch and listen to these things without allowing ourselves to RELIVE that experience.
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#2 The Bigger Picture Is Always A Depiction Of EXPANSION & Not of Reduction
(All of your negative experiences are meant to mold you into your greatest self)
Here’s a hypothetical scenario…Here is person A….and here’s person B.
Person A has been in a total of 3 long term, serious relationships. One high school sweetheart that lasted 5 years. A marriage that ended in divorce after 8 years, and finally another marriage that has been growing in love for the last 5 years successfully in unconditional love.
Person B has been in only 1 long term, serious relationship, but that’s with their spouse that they have been married to successfully for the last 10 years, while growing in unconditional love.
Now, my question to you is this….Which person, person A or B has more experience when it comes to love? Which one is more likely to more more WISDOM when it comes to the topic of love.
Well, from my personal experience and in my humble opinion, I would say it should (keyword SHOULD, and I’ll explain why in a second) be Person A.
The reason why I chose this person that I believe should have more wisdom and experience in love is because if you have ONLY exclusively experienced the positive attributes of love, then you ONLY know 1 side of the spectrum of what consists of love, and the circumstances that come from it.
If you have had heartbreak, failed relationships, etc, then you also have experience in the other side of the side, the other end of the spectrum! The reason why I said earlier, that Person A SHOULD have more wisdom of love is because we need the conscious, inner awareness to be able to understand that EVERYTHING that we experience (preferably the unfavorable experiences) is an opportunity to LEARN, GROW, and become STRONGER in our understanding of what life is, and of ourselves.
If you are reading this blog post right now, then you most likely have experienced some form of heartbreak and wish to learn how to get over heartbreak. NOW is the time to take a moment out to be grateful that you have accumulated enough experiences, feelings, and emotions that has helped you understand a more broad perspective of what type of love you know you deserve.
If a person ONLY knows half of the game (positive expressions of love), then they fully don’t know the entire spectrum of it. We live in a dualistic universe. There is a universal law of polarity. This is where the concept of Yin & Yang come from. In this 3rd Dimensional universe that we live in, it is impossible for one thing to exist without it’s equal polarizing opposite. For every negative, there is a positive and vice versa.
TO FULLY KNOW LOVE IS TO ALSO KNOW THE ABSENCE OF LOVE.
We cannot Fully KNOW something unless we experience it first hand, and to accept the reality of it within in order to be at peace with ourselves.
Now that we have this understanding that we are becoming more wise in these heartbreaking times, I want to state the main theme of this step one more time…The bigger picture of all our experiences (including the bad, unfavorable ones) always depicts the opportunity of EXPANSION in our lives, and it’s NEVER meant to stop us or to take away from us, in the grand scheme of things.
Of course not everyone is going to agree, because it takes an open mind to try your best in learning the lessons you need to learn in order to open up your heartspace. A closed minded individual will not be willing to see their pain as a lesson, and will end up MISSING the lesson that they needed in order to find their truest of loves!!!
And this is a perfect segway into the last step…
Your truest of loves is…..(drumroll)
#3 Have A SELF LOVING Foundation.
(You must know your self worth and love yourself accordingly)
You must have a self image that is self loving in order to be the type of person that is attractive to your ideal love partner.
Think of it this way…I had a female friend come up to me and she said, “Why are there NO good men?” I expressed to her immediately that, first of all I kind of felt offended by that, because if she honestly felt like there were LITERALLY no good men, then how do you view me?
I proceeded to tell her that us “good men” are very careful in selecting a woman, Queen, partner, spouse…even friends. I explained to her that the type of energy she was projecting was energy of self doubt, low self esteem, lack of confidence, bitterness, etc.
WHY WOULD A GOOD MAN WANT TO BE AROUND THAT KIND OF ENERGY???
So, it’s not that there are no good men, it’s just that you are not attracting any good men to you because of your energy….People can feel your energy through your tone of voice, your body language, and even the vibe that you give off. Consciously aware people pick up on this stuff easily, but even people who are not so consciously aware still know, but for them it’s just an intuitive feeling that they pick up on. This causes us to distance ourselves away from people who are just not on the same frequency that we are on. If you’re on a frequency of low self esteem, feeling like a victim, and not working to empower yourself and love yourself, the people that are already on a self loving frequency is not going to want to spent TOO MUCH TIME with those in a lower frequency.
Why is that….because it is draining!!! It eventually becomes a burden and it starts to feel like others are holding you back and holding you down energetically and emotionally.
This journey cannot be faked….So the best way to obtain LOVE is to first LEGITIMATELY, GENUINELY find it within YOURSELF…FOR YOURSELF. If you try to find self love for the sake of obtaining external love, it will take you longer because it is not genuine at it’s core. You must begin your journey of finding your own true self love and self worth.
Here’s some great news. When you are on your journey of finding this self loving worth within, freeing yourself from all non empowering victim energy, then you will begin to see how more and more people gravitate towards you. Not just random people, but people that will resonate deeply with your soul! People that get you, that understands you in ways that seem like you’re living a real life fairy tale!
You know how people usually say Wow, you have a glow to you! That natural glow that they are seeing is a part of your radiant self loving energy, your aura being aligned with the highest form of yourself. You align ever so precisely with your highest self when you love yourself unconditionally.
TAKE THIS MOMENT…
- Take this moment to forgive yourself from all the times where you felt down, drained, and depleted about your lack of love in your life.
- Take this moment to forgive yourself if you have ever questioned or doubted yourself about your love life and if you were ever worth the love that you know you deserve.
- Take this moment to forgive yourself from ever feeling lonely, and wondering when your true soul mate was going to show up in your life.
- Take this time to forgive yourself if you felt like you wasted time chasing a person that didn’t deserve you or if you chased a person that didn’t want to be with you as much as you wanted to be with them.
- Take this time to forgive yourself if you felt like it was unfair to honestly try your best, to sacrifice it all, just to have things not work out as expected.
FORGIVE YOURSELF OF ALL THE PAINFUL NEGATIVE THOUGHTS that you have associated with your challenging love experiences.
Love yourself no matter what…In all actually, You should love yourself even more because you have put in the hard work genuinely to the best of your ability. Your higher self, God, The Universe…whatever higher power you identify with SEES this and trust that your blessings will come in due time as you embrace your self loving journey.
Imagine a movie where the main character’s main purpose is to give back and spread love to the world. Imagine the public not understanding why a person would be so nice, so they treat him bad just because they are skeptical and full of doubt. YOU KNOW that he deserves to be treated like a hero because of his intentions….well, as I mentioned in step #2, the universe is always in a mode of expansion…so as long as this main character stays on his righteous path, and develop the proper traits they need for their specific journey, then they will ALWAYS get what they deserve.
NO ONE & I REPEAT…NO ONE IS BORN TO LOSE.
People only “lose” and “miss out” because they are not aware that there are significant opportunities for growth in the challenges. A skilled guitarist does not become skilled without working on their craft, and yes it can be challenging to put the hours of practice in….but just like a talented musician, we must ACTIVELY practice our self love and self worth in order to become LOVED and WORTHY!
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